I am Lisa L'Heureux. As some of you know, I had been involved in violent and abusive relationships for much of my life. What I now think is this, being mean doesn't mean that a person is tough. Instead, in my opinion, a person that can face daily life and handle everyday emotions is much more solid than someone who goes around getting what they want through intimidation and manipulation. Kindness also makes a person strong.
I always thought that it was considered a weakness to show love. I rightly believed that love makes a person vulnerable. I still think that is true but I no longer believe that it is bad to be vulnerable. It is a part of the human condition. There are people who will take advantage of a person when they are vulnerable. This is the way of the abuser, I suppose.
As with any of the other issues I had picked up over the years, I am certainly not out of the woods with this Domestic Abuse thing, either. After all, I had managed to attract at least 10 abusive people into my life before now.
Is it true that we create our lives? Do we actually bring a certain kind of people into our lives? I noticed that since I quit drinking for quite a while there are no people in my life that are exceedingly judgy anymore. There is no one that causes rifts or that I cannot handle being around. I will not have it. Maybe life doesn't have to be as difficult as I once thought. Or maybe it does.
I don't know all the answers. All I can do is what I am able. I can meet and talk with people about Domestic Violence. I am able to help raise awareness. I can be a part of initiatives that focus on prevention, safety planning and education. I wasn't able to see that I could leave my abuser. I thought that he would forever be stalking me. He... I should say, they. Now that I have been through all I have and come out on the other side, I have a different perspective.
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