"No woman has to be a victim of physical abuse. Women have to feel like they are not alone."
Formal safety planning:
Have money saved to escape if needed.
Go outside of the home every day and think about how to escape if necessary.
Tell a trusted someone what is really happening.
Keep an escape bag packed and know where it is in the home if needed.
If possible, keep an escape bag packed with passport, identification and money with a trusted friend or family member.
Know every exit from every location in case of an emergency.
Perhaps the best form of safety planning is prevention. Give children a safe environment to grow and learn. Teach children love and respect at home by showing them love and respect. Know that every life is valuable.
To Always Have On Hand Important Numbers to find out for your area: Police Fire Department Shelters Schools Neighbors Friends Family
Final notes: Regarding Indigenous Alcohol-Fueled Domestic Homicide, not drinking alcohol would be effective, excepting for dry drunk rages. People who have problems with violence can ask for help. Nobody should be shamed if admitting they need help because of addiction, rage problems or not having been taught how to treat others with patience and respect. Kindness can be learned. In formal safety planning, especially for Indigenous women, prevention includes educating young girls and women about what exactly family violence is. Teach the youth that it is not okay to be mistreated. Self-defense could be made available to Indigenous girls while in grade school. We can teach the children valuable life-skills and sobriety.
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P.S. There are plenty of organizations out there in the front lines that can use volunteers and money. I have used emergency shelters before and might not have been able to make it without them. -Lisa